Where do you go to get directions?
Have you ever asked yourself why there is
no school to go to learn how to make marriage a
success? What about the school that teaches you
how to parent each of your individual children
properly? Well, I have asked myself both of those
questions!
The answer to those questions came to me
at around age 40 after having two of my own
children, three step children, and two failed
marriages. Those schools are available in the form of
hiring a professional life coach who is trained to not
only listen, but provide personalized teaching,
frameworks, and to design environments that inspire
concerted action to gain the desired results. That
idea is along the same line as "Give a man a fish; you
have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and
you have fed him for a life time."
Can you imagine getting the directions you
need from yourself when in a time of crisis? None of
us should expect ourselves to be experts without
experience, tools, or teachers to guide us through
our lives. In chapter 15, verse 22 of the new
testament it says "Where there is no counsel, plans
fail; but in a multitude of counselors they (plans) are
established." Although spiritual, I have never been
very religious, whatever that means, but that verse
makes a lot of sense to me.
Knowing where to get directions is the first
step, those directions helping to create a plan is the
next, and carrying out that plan to see the fruit,
profit, or gain is the result.
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Greetings!
I've got four questions for you this month!
- What are you working on with respect to your
family issues?
- What will this bring you?
- How are you doing, or how is it working for you?
- Where would you like to be at the end of 12
months?
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Sandy's August Tips
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We all have thoughts and ideas that we believe are
true called automatic thoughts. I suggest using the
following four questions addressing those internal
thoughts to
test them for validity:
- Is this thought really true?
- Does holding on to this thought or attitude serve
my best interests?
- Are my thoughts and attitudes advancing and
protecting my health and the health of my family?
- Does this attitude or belief get me more of what I
want, need and deserve in regards to my family life?
If any of those automatic thoughts which you have
challenged came up with a negative answer, you
need to figure out something different to replace the
old thought.
You can not have new or improved
outcomes when you have not changed your method
of operation or your way of thinking.
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For Instance:
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Years ago, when I quit smoking three packs of
cigarettes a day, "self talk" was one of the first
things that I had to modify. The old "That was such
a close call, I really need a cigarette!" was replaced
with "I don't really want a cigarette." The more
often I said OUT LOUD the words that voiced my new
intention to quit the nicotine habit, the easier it
became to actually carry out my new day without
smoking.
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