We have all had a lifetime to build these triggers for our reactions, so it stands to reason that it will take more than just a minute to overcome those trigger points. It could take months or years, but it can be done.
When you are aware of the things that trigger reactions in you and choose NOT to let them affect you, you have taken control of the moment. As parents, our energy will be far better spent making a conscious choice as to how we respond to the kids having a fist fight than just reacting to the circumstances.

Here are some of the benefits you will find if you work at becoming reaction free:

• You will have more time and energy to be creative and productive instead of running around being a one person police force!
• You can recognize OTHER options available to you to resolve a situation, rather than letting the same old reaction take over.
• You can turn a problem into an opportunity.
• You can choose not to be upset anymore.
• You may find other ways to learn rather than by reacting to difficult situations.
• You gain confidence in your ability to handle unexpected or changing circumstances.
• You can let those around you be more human because you are no longer reacting to everything that happens.
• Quality of life, relationships and energy improve without reactions.

 

One of the best questions you can ask yourself when trying to figure out whether you have been doing something the right way:
HOW HAS THAT BEEN WORKING FOR ME?