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Chances are good
that you are already facing one or more of the following issues if
you are in a stepfamily:
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Shock at the
difficulty in blending two families with no idea of what to expect
or how to deal with those challenges.
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Difference of
opinion with your spouse about discipline, with the kids resisting
and resenting any involvement of the stepparent.
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The feeling of
like, much less love, is hard for you to find for the stepkids.
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You are
embarrassed and don’t know just who to talk to about this
stepfamily problem.
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Visitation is
dreaded because you know it brings anxiety, tension, and fights
with your spouse and/or your ex.
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Everything you do
to make this work fails, and you are only left with frustration.
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This brand new
second marriage is getting buried by all of the problematic issues
with children, dealing with the ex’s, visitation, and the
financial strain of supporting double the houses.
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The love that
makes you feel so happy with your new spouse is undermined by fear
of this unknown territory and lack of solution.
 Nearly
all people who are professionally involved with family problems
advise pre-marital counseling for couples about to remarry into a
step situation. EVERYONE needs help, yet 99% of re-marrying
couples don’t, and probably won’t look for it!
That is how common
it is for people to walk into their second marriage with no idea
that the odds are against its success. Here are the facts:
60 percent of
remarriages end in divorce and 66 percent of remarriages with
children fail. The odds are clearly against you. With every
problem there are always three ways out:
1. Tolerate the
situation and hope it gets better.
2. Leave the situation completely.
3. Change the situation so it suits you.
Yes, you can keep
doing what you are doing and hope for the best; did you see the
divorce rate for couples in stepfamilies?
Yes, you can
divorce AGAIN. A low-ball current cost for the average divorce is
between $10,000 & $15,000 and that is not including child support
and alimony when the divorce is final! Your kids have already felt
the effects of the first divorce, how tragic to force a second one
on them. Not to mention the lesson you are teaching them about
relationships, love, and commitment. And what about the love that
brought you to this second marriage? It is very likely that you
still love your spouse very much, you just don’t know how to deal
with the unexpected problems that are unique to stepfamilies.
Yes, you can learn
how to manage this new stepfamily of yours, it just takes asking for
qualified help. With my training at your disposal your chance of
stepfamily success goes up from 34% to 84%!
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